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La Leche League Canada

What Mothers Need to Know Before They’re Mothers

on October 14, 2014

Words of Wisdom from Real Mothers at a La Leche League Meeting:

  • Newborns don’t look like magazine babies.
  • There are no right answers.
  • People say things, but they aren’t always trying to be judgmental when they say them.
  • A dirty house builds extra immunities.
  • Sometimes motherhood stinks.
  • ‘Should’ is a poison word that argues against reality.
  • It’s important to see other babies so you know what’s really normal.
  • Sometimes the books are just wrong.
  • Listen to yourself.
  • Listen to your baby. Respect him and his intuition. He will tell you what he needs.
  • Find someone who will listen to you.
  • You will never achieve an ideal state of motherhood.
  • Wait long enough and it will change, and the questions and answers will be different.

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  • Pick your battles.
  • A dog is an excellent floor cleaner.
  • Respond to questions with “Why do you ask?”
  • Receiving blankets have all kinds of uses— a surface for public diaper changes, an extra wrap in a car seat, catching spit- up.
  • Hold off buying things until you know whether you’re ever going to use them— like a crib or changing table. Don’t get caught up in the consumerism of new parenthood.
  • The ideal adult-to-baby ratio is about three to one the first week. But if all you have is one mother and one baby, you’ll manage.
  • When people offer help, say yes.
  • Join a playgroup. It’s not for the child, it’s for the mother.
  • After a week or so, get out of the house. The crying doesn’t bother other people as much as you think it does, and even the grocery store can seem like a wonderful adventure.
  • Step outside when you can, throw your shoulders back, take a deep breath, and look up for at least a few seconds.
  • Don’t be surprised at how totally bizarre you feel the first week. It’s normal to feel really weird.
  • You can only do what you can do.
  • Let go of your expectations and let what is be.
  • Just because it’s fun doesn’t mean it’s not important.


From The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, 8th Edition, Chapter 20, Tear Sheet Toolkit.


If you need more information or have a breastfeeding problem or concern, you are strongly encouraged to talk directly to a La Leche League Leader.  In Canada, Leaders can be located by clicking or Internationally






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